there is a saying in the Book of Rites: "A gentleman is the golden mean, but a villain is unscrupulous."

when you are alive, you should know how to behave and be in awe and fear.

Don't be blindly arrogant and insatiably greedy, otherwise, you can only be brave, and it will be difficult to achieve anything in the end.

only by having a correct understanding of yourself can we have a long time to come and be stable and far away.

avoid being competitive

Han Feizi says:

"if you put an ape in the middle of an ape, it will be the same as the ape, so the situation will remain the same, and not all your abilities will be the same."

means to put an ape in a cage just like a pig, so don't be brave when the situation is bad.

you should know that enough is enough, act according to your ability, and never be competitive and make your own cocoons.

in 311 BC, the son of King Qin Huiwen ascended the throne. He was strong and boasted that he was born with divine power.

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he liked to compare his strength with others, so Hercules Ren contemptible, Wu Huo and others became high-ranking officials.

in the four years of King Wu of Qin, a group of people watched the nine tripods, which were originally cast by Dayu from the tribute of Kyushu under the world, each representing one state.

King Wu examined one by one, and when he saw the Longwen Chiding, which represented Yongzhou, he said to the courtiers: "

has anyone lifted this tripod?

"

Shouding man said: "

this tripod weighs as much as a thousand, and since the tripod came into being, no one can lift it.

"

if he didn't believe in winning, he said to his guard Meng that he would win the championship.

when the minister and his entourage heard that King Wu of Qin was going to lift the tripod, they remonstrated one after another and said, "the king has ten thousand passengers, don't try your strength easily."

however, he believed in his divine power, disregarded the minister's advice, took off his robe and jade belt, and strode forward to lift Longwen Chiding with all his strength.

unexpectedly, the right foot was difficult to support, the body tilted, the tripod fell to the ground, broke the tibia, and died out of breath.

in life, a failure does not mean a failure, and a forbearance does not mean that life is hopeless.

to know how to be a low-key person, do not show your edge, any ignorant overexert is a foolish act, but also a fatal weakness.

as it is written in Chang Li Ju Yao: "when something happens, you should be calm. Don't try to do what you can't do."

if you don't have a diamond, don't do porcelain work. You should be self-aware and don't make your face swollen and fat, otherwise, you will be the one who will suffer in the end.

avoid smiling with anger

someone in Zhihu once asked: what is the sign of a person's maturity?

in fact, there is a highly liked answer:

"

everything is no longer written on the face, all the joys and sorrows are burning in their own hearts, and passers-by can only see the smoke on the surface.

"

that's true.

as there is a saying in Caigen Tan: "people do not like anger lightly, and things do not attach importance to love and hate."

emotion is the expression of one's inner thoughts. Truly mature people never let their joys and sorrows be written on their faces, but know how to restrain and digest them.

there is a grumpy spiritual practitioner who wants to change his impetuous shortcomings.

so he spent a lot of money to build a temple and asked a senior person to write the plaque of "Bainu Temple" and hang it.

there are more and more people coming and going around with incense, and this person has to explain his good thoughts every time.

everyone admires him very much, and he thinks that his irritable mood has been purified.

one day, a Zen master passed by and asked, "

what is written on the plaque?

"

the practitioner smiles and says, "

hundred

Ninja Temple

.

"

the Zen master said, "

I didn't catch you. Could you say it again?

"

the practitioner said in an impatient tone: "

Bairen Temple.

"

the Zen master smiled and asked, "

what do you call it?

"

the practitioner said angrily, "

hundred-patience-Temple, is there something wrong with your ears or you can't understand people

.

"

the Zen master smiled and said, "

I only asked you three times and you were furious. What's your name? Bairen Temple.

"

it is inevitable to encounter indignant things in life. Losing temper is an instinct, but not losing one's temper is the skill.

the really strong never get angry, but know how to control their emotions, not to be slaves to them, let alone let anger control themselves, make themselves irrational, and thus do things that they regret.

to be a man, you should know how to control your emotions, don't let anger occupy your heart, tell yourself:

to be angry is to admit defeat, and it will only be your own life that will lose in the end.

avoid insatiable greed

there is a saying in the Book of the later Han Dynasty: "people are not satisfied with their sufferings, they are both in Pinglong and look back to Shu."

the greatest pain in life is that you don't know how to be satisfied. You get Longdi and think about Shu, and you are insatiably greedy.

the human heart can never be satisfied, and desire is a bottomless pit that cannot be filled, so it is physically and mentally exhausted.

Life, naked to come and go naked, can not bring nor take away, life, contentment will always be happy.

for all his wealth, the solar eclipse is no more than three.Meal; although there are ten thousand buildings, you can sleep no more than seven feet at night.

tells such a story in

how much Land a person needs:

Poor Pahom is worried all day because he doesn't have his own land.

once, I heard that the land in the neighboring village mainly sold land, so he sold his horses and bees, plus wages and money borrowed from relatives, to buy 50 hectares of land.

as a result, Pahom also became a landlord, rich and rich, and led a rich and prosperous life.

Pahom, who was insatiably greedy for land, was not satisfied. He heard that there was a place where the price of land was calculated according to the places he traveled in a day, so he traveled thousands of miles to come here.

the landlord said, "

Land masses here

more, how far you go in a day, all the land you walk through is yours, but

premise is,

you must return to the starting point before sunset that day.

"

Pahom said happily that there was no problem, so he set out before dawn and walked desperately without eating or drinking. When the sun was about to set, he fell a kilometer from the starting point and never woke up.

so he was buried here, and the priest said with emotion, "how much land does a man want?" It's this big. "

how much Land a person needs:

Poor Pahom is worried all day because he doesn't have his own land.

once, I heard that the land in the neighboring village mainly sold land, so he sold his horses and bees, plus wages and money borrowed from relatives, to buy 50 hectares of land.

as a result, Pahom also became a landlord, rich and rich, and led a rich and prosperous life.

Pahom, who was insatiably greedy for land, was not satisfied. He heard that there was a place where the price of land was calculated according to the places he traveled in a day, so he traveled thousands of miles to come here.

the landlord said, "

Land masses here

more, how far you go in a day, all the land you walk through is yours, but

premise is,

you must return to the starting point before sunset that day.

"

Pahom said happily that there was no problem, so he set out before dawn and walked desperately without eating or drinking. When the sun was about to set, he fell a kilometer from the starting point and never woke up.

so he was buried here, and the priest said with emotion, "how much land does a man want?" It's this big. "

while the world pursues desires, endless troubles follow.

wants a lot of things and wants more.

greed can engulf a person's mind and make people unable to extricate themselves.

to be a man, you must know how to be contented. Sometimes you must have it in your life, but don't force it in your life all the time.

contentment will always be happy, and only in this materialistic society can we find a real place to live.

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the road of life is long and blocked.

only by knowing how to be in awe, keep a low profile and be humble can we take fewer detours and take more smooth paths in life.

as Fang Xiaoru said:

those who are good and afraid must be upright, speak according to rules, stop doing, occasionally go beyond the rules, and do not go out of line.

, may you recognize yourself clearly, never forget your original ideal and ambition, be content, and wish your life full of spring and blooming flowers.