Interpersonal communication is a long process of spiritual practice. May we all succeed in spiritual practice.
the relationship between people is like knitting sweaters.
the sweater is difficult to shape if the knitting is too loose.
the knitting is too dense and the sweater is too solid to breathe.
the same is true of people's feelings. If they do not interact and do not operate, they will fade.
but if you communicate too frequently, if you don't know what to do, it will also become a disaster.
especially in daily chat, try not to talk like this, no matter how good the relationship is.
too indifferent, perfunctory
I have heard such a sentence:
"the furthest distance in the world is when I give you my passion and care, while you laugh at me at the other end of the screen."
the human heart cannot stand temptation, nor can feelings stand indifference and perfunctory.
those who have tasted grievances and disappointments in snub and perfunctory ways will never come back once they leave.
the loss of the desire for sharing means that a relationship is about to end.
as teacher he said:
"in a relationship, the most important thing is not appearance, nor bread, nor even loyalty, but sharing.
the end of a relationship often begins when two people have nothing to say.
when one party loses the desire to share, there are naturally fewer words. There is no more communication, and he becomes a stranger. "
so, even if you are in a close relationship, don't be too indifferent and perfunctory when chatting.
Don't use "busy" as an excuse to deliberately ignore each other.
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if you really have ta in your heart, you can also take time out of your busy schedule.
you know, if the relationship is not seriously maintained, walking, people will break up.
too close, no sense of size
teacher Zhou Guoping once said:
"A sense of size is a sign of mature love, and interpersonal communication should know how to abide by the necessary distance between people."
because of too much force, it will cause pressure.
especially between friends, no matter how good the relationship is, you should pay attention to the balance.
if there are some things you shouldn't ask, it's best not to ask.
if there are some things you shouldn't say, you'd better not say anything.
there are some things that shouldn't be taken care of, so you'd better stay out of it.
if you lose control and cross the line, the relationship will change.
in the TV series "the first half of my Life", Luo Zijun and Tang Jing were like this.
they were originally good girlfriends who told everything. During the period of Luo Zijun's divorce, Tang Jing was on call to Luo Zijun like a sister.
she shares her life and love with Luo Zijun in every detail, and Luo Zijun is not shy about meddling in her privacy.
even he Han, the lover Tang Jing cares about most, Luo Zijun meets and contacts him from time to time.
in the end, he Han gave up Tang Jing because of Luo Zijun.
getting too close between people can sometimes lead to a disaster in a relationship.
only by knowing how to be careful and see the boundaries clearly, can we not get along with each other and keep the friendship lasting for a long time.
talk vaguely and chat too often
there is a saying:
"keeping a sense of boundaries with the opposite sex is the protective wall of emotion."
I think so.
especially when friends of the opposite sex chat, they should avoid being too ambiguous in words and deeds.
like the story of a 30-second power outage in the library that was engraved into DNA by netizens.
in the story, the boy keeps in touch with his classmates frequently behind his girlfriend's back.
sometimes the content of the chat is also very ambiguous and ambiguous.
his younger sister often shares her daily life with him, and he also shares his playlist with her younger sister from time to time.
if they are all single, there is nothing wrong with such behavior.
however, boys have girlfriends, which violates the basic principles of loyalty and single-mindedness in love.
there must be a clear distinction between chatting with friends of the opposite sex.
if ambiguity is not clear, it will not only affect each other, but also cause irreparable damage to their partners.
Love is exclusive, and its field is so narrow that it can only accommodate two people who love each other, and there can be no third party.
therefore, between friends of the opposite sex, no matter how close the relationship is, they should pay attention to discretion, keep their distance, and never cross the line for fouls.
when you chat with your lover, it's best not to be perfunctory and snub to each other.
when chatting with friends, it's best not to ask questions about everything and get too close.
when chatting with the opposite sex, it is best not to be ambiguous in words and deeds.
No matter how good the relationship is, you should learn to manage, distinguish Jing Wei and know how to be prudent.
I hope we can all restrain ourselves, be strict with ourselves, and be lenient to others.
No matter what kind of relationship you are in, you can be at ease.
neither offend nor hurt each other, nor lose oneself.
interpersonal communication is a long process of spiritual practice. May we all succeed in spiritual practice.
encourage it.