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in the past two days, many netizens have been furious by a "scum man" again.

is about a man who has been married to his wife for 20 years and has been living and working in the United States.

unexpectedly, last year, the woman unfortunately suffered from cancer and died in May.

as a result, instead of properly burying his wife, the man seized his wife's insurance money and expelled his parents-in-law who came to deal with the afterlife.

also found a new love 20 years younger from China. He paid the bride price that month and got married in July.

many people are very angry and think that the "Silicon Valley scum man" is worse than Lin Shengbin.

Let me get this straight with you first--

Mr. Yu and Ms. Deng, both Gao Zhi and Beiyou alumni, went to study in the United States.

the two have been married for 20 years and have a son and a daughter in Mei.

Mr. Yu works at Google, Ms. Deng works at Facebook, and elite middle-class couples work at big American Internet companies.

Information of Mr. Yu and Ms. Deng

in August 2020, Ms. Deng unfortunately suffered from gastric cancer.

for some unknown reason

(afraid of parents' worry or others)

, she didn't tell her parents who live in Xi'an.

during the Spring Festival in 2021, Ms. Deng's condition deteriorated sharply.

in February and March 2021, Ms. Deng's parents rushed to the United States.

just two months later, in May 2021, Ms. Deng left.

it is reported that after Ms. Deng died, her company gave her a replacement pension of US $2 million, as well as a salary of 1/2 over a ten-year period.

if the news is true, it means that Ms. Deng, who has struggled in the United States for many years, has a rich legacy.

according to the relevant laws of the United States, Ms. Deng's property will belong to her husband and children, and has little to do with her parents.

probably from that moment on, it was decided that after Ms. Deng's unfortunate death, there would be a battle for inheritance between her husband of 20 years and her parents who gave birth to her.

what's more, many people who believe in love and long-term love are amazed by the following plot.

in mid-June 2021, just 10 or 20 days after Ms. Deng's death, Mr. Yu got her death certificate to prove his singleness and began to look for a suitable woman to be a stepwife on domestic dating websites.

in this matter, Mr. Yu, whose thoughts and emotions are completely westernized, can be called stable and ruthless:

8 days to confirm the choice of stepwife.

after 9 days of communication and familiarity, Mr. Yu and his new wife, who works in Shanghai, registered online and got married across the border.

then, the 26-year-old new wife went to the United States as a family member and soon became pregnant.

all these arrangements are in place, only two months after Ms. Deng died.

at this time, Ms. Deng's ashes had not yet been buried, and Mr. Yu was buried in his yard.

Ms. Deng's parents, that is, Mr. Yu's former parents-in-law, have been stranded in the former son-in-law's house because their daughter was not buried, the United States was unable to return to the country because of the serious epidemic, and did not share the daughter's inheritance.

they are suffering from the death of their only daughter, and they are also very dissatisfied with the unkind feelings of their former son-in-law.

if the daughter is gone and the son-in-law is unwilling to share the inheritance, what about their life and pension in their old age?

the conflict between Mr. Yu, who married a new man and immediately became a father, who was content with his wish, and Ms. Deng's parents, who had lost an only daughter, had no country for the old, and was disgruntled, rapidly worsened.

in the end, the matter turned out that two old people had to pay for their former son-in-law, and Mr. Yu used American law to issue an eviction order to his ex-parents-in-law:

must move out within a month.

the two old men were so cold that they exposed Mr. Yu's selfishness by asking local Chinese in the United States for help.

this has not made much waves in a beautiful country that advocates freedom and democracy.

but in China, which believes in long-term love and filial piety, it has caused an uproar.

exposure of Beijing Post alumni

the above revelation comes from Ms. Deng's university classmate of Beijing Post.

many netizens were shocked when they saw it:

Oh, my God, this guy is worse than Lin Shengbin.

before his ex-wife was cold, he quickly found a new lover, took all his possessions, turned his face, and drove away his former parents-in-law.

A couple has a hundred days of kindness in a day and a couple in 20 years, how can it be so cold?

in the midst of public condemnation, Mr. Yu himself, who is in the United States, had to come forward to respond to this matter.

mainly said the following points:

first, he was very happy in love with his ex-wife, but was finally defeated by cancer. He was very heartache, so he had to start a new life.

second, after the death of his ex-wife, he was in great pain. With "a glimmer of uncertainty and hope for the future", he met his second wife and got married nine days later.

third, his ex-wife wants him to be happy, and his children support him very much, so he has no moral burden on remarriage.

Fourth, for his former parents-in-law, he promised to pay a pension every year to assist the two elderly people to provide for their old age until a hundred years later.

he did this because he heard his ex-wife say that his ex-father-in-law loved to invest in stocks and lost a lot of money.

but Qianyue's parents do not agree with this plan and insist on one-off compensation.

Fifth, there was a stalemate. Mr. Yu took out 54000 US dollars from his savings, as well as 18000 US dollars donated by netizens, which was transferred to two elderly people in August last year.

the two old men also promised to return home after getting the money.

later, he suddenly backed out and asked for another US $40,000, saying that he had returned to China to buy a graveyard for his daughter, and that he had to fly business class when he returned home.

Mr. Yu can't agree to this.

because most of the property left by the ex-wife is deposited in the name of the children.

he has no right to control, and he has to pay the mortgage.

Mr. Yu's personal response

in short, in Mr. Yu's response, the main emphasis is:

he loves his ex-wife very much, but this does not prevent him from remarrying to find a second wife.

the inheritance of his ex-wife has nothing to do with his ex-parents-in-law, but he is kind enough to make compensation on his own initiative.

the two old men were insatiably greedy and went back on their promises, and he couldn't stand it.

both sides hold their own opinions.

so, is it really the fault of money?

talk about my personal opinion.

first of all, the chill is more intolerable to the two old people than money.

I believe everyone still remembers the incident in which Lin Shengbin overturned.

in fact, after Zhu Xiaozhen and her three children left, Zhu Xiaozhen's parents were silent for quite a long time.

this silence is an unbearable pain for white-haired people to send black-haired people.

this silence is also the uncertainty of watching Lin Shengbin's follow-up performance.

when the news that Lin Shengbin remarried and gave birth to a daughter was exposed, Zhu Xiaozhen's parents and brothers couldn't stand it any longer and one after another stood up and accused Lin of being unfaithful.

Why?

it's not just because Lin Shengbin ate human blood steamed bread with Zhu Xiaozhen and three children-Lin Shengbin has been making money from long-term lovers, not in one or two days.

but because Lin Shengbin secretly remarried and had children, making the Zhu family feel unworthy of Zhu Xiaozhen and their three children, and began to argue with each other in this psychological imbalance.

this is an extremely complex and delicate psychology of the elderly who have lost loved ones, especially those who have lost their children.

if you are affectionate and righteous, we can say anything.

if you are heartless, I will ask for an explanation for the dead child.

including the controversial Jiang GE mother, is also the same mentality.

I understand this paranoia as a manifestation of traumatic sequelae:

if you are ruthless, I will fall out.

my favorite children are gone, what do I have to be afraid of losing?

second, talking about money hurts feelings, but if you don't talk about money, you will have no place to rely on.

although Mr. Yu described his ex-wife's parents as insatiable greedy people in his response, I think:

it is also human nature to ask for the two old people.

the only daughter is gone, and the two old people are both in their seventies and eighties. They must be worried about their old age.

although, from a wealth management point of view, it is most reasonable to pay a pension once a year.

but from the point of view of human nature and variables: for the two old people, it is the wisest to pay compensation all at once.

they may "see through

"

Mr. Yu's thoughtlessness and calculation.

if they can't take the money when they return home this time, Mr. Yu, who married a second wife and gave birth to a son, will soon stop giving them old-age money.

then, they will want to cry without tears.

they return home, Mr. Yu is in the United States, the two countries are so far away, and the laws are different, even if Mr. Yu signs an agreement and Mr. Yu turns his face and denies others, who do they want to go to?

third, this gossip is essentially a game of human nature.

because of the limited data, we can't speculate on the relationship between Ms. Deng and her parents.

one thing that puzzles me is:

as a highly knowledgeable person, knowing that she is suffering from advanced gastric cancer, why didn't Ms. Deng immediately go to a lawyer, write a will, and make arrangements for her possessions?

she is an only child, so she must know that if she leaves, her parents will have no one to depend on.

but with regard to the inheritance, she did not leave half a point for her parents.

if Ms. Deng immediately perfected the legal documents and arranged her property in the form of a will after her illness, there would be no such thing at all.

maybe she has a family wound with her parents, or maybe she trusts Mr. Yu too much.

now that she's gone, it's a little sad that her husband and her biological parents are stuck in the same chicken feathers.

Love is love, love is love, and belief is belief.

but planning ahead and planning after you also need to be prepared.

this is not a lack of love, but a responsibility to the family.

fourth, when it comes to widowed remarriage, men and women are very different.

after the gossip spread all over the Internet, many people left messages:

"too heartbreaking.

after my mother /aunt /aunt /sister died, my father /uncle/uncle /brother-in-law, he will soon live with his new lover.

I don't quite understand it, but I'm shocked. "

some people say:

"after my father /uncle /uncle /brother-in-law died, my mother /aunt /aunt /sister took care of her children and grew old alone.

I am very moved, but also very sad. "

I its

whether it's a man or a woman.

however, we need to see the truth in real life:

after the husband dies, many wives take a long time to remarry, or stop looking for it for the rest of their lives.

it has something to do with women's emphasis on feelings.

in many families, women also

long ago, a person has become a team

.

Women are in charge of everything from firewood, rice, oil and salt to the elderly and children.

Women will be sad when men are gone, but women can live without men.

can not only live, but also take good care of the children and provide care for the elderly.

but men are different.

many men remarry and remarry soon after their wives die.

it's not that all men are unsentimental, to be honest, it's that many men don't have the ability to live alone.

they need a wife like a mother, washing and cooking for them, raising and raising children, and guarding the rear.

yesterday, after "Silicon Valley scum Man" became popular all over the Internet, some colleagues in the media mentioned:

Su Shi, who wrote "Ten years of Life and death", mourns his dead wife while he already has a concubine around him.

write that "there is a loquat tree in the court, and the pavilion has been covered by hand in the year of my wife's death." it is also hooked up with the servant girl under the loquat tree.

in fact, if you ask me, let's talk about today's people without mentioning our old friends.

the leading men in the hubbub of "the World" last year also remarried and had children while people were still immersed in a long plot-- state the fact that I have no objection to anyone starting a new life and looking for new happiness without hurting others.

through this comparison, we need to see the differences between the sexes:

Women like to immerse themselves in the past, while men focus more on the future.

compared with men, women are more likely to wronge themselves, fulfill others, live a heavy life, and forget to pursue personal happiness.

Men pay more attention to having fun in time and living in the present.

the leading men in the hubbub of "the World" last year also remarried and had children while people were still immersed in a long plot-- state the fact that I have no objection to anyone starting a new life and looking for new happiness without hurting others.

through this comparison, we need to see the differences between the sexes:

Women like to immerse themselves in the past, while men focus more on the future.

compared with men, women are more likely to wronge themselves, fulfill others, live a heavy life, and forget to pursue personal happiness.

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